My friend Donovan Ramsey brought to my attention that a white woman is more likely to marry than a Black woman. I imagined that for various reasons. However, he also finished his statement with the most shattering statistic. "Not only is a white woman more likely to marry than a Black woman, but a white woman is more likely to marry a Black man than a Black woman. I am so emotional about this issue. I literally just felt my skin crawl, my eyes are filled liquid pain, and I am clinging my teeth so tightly right now. No I am not angry. Actually, this is MY blog therefore I can say that I am. I am angry. I know what you may be thinking. No, I am not ignorant. I am analytical and very observant and I have my own opinion and theory on this issue which validates and allows me to be angry.
I am aware that some people grow up, and are taught that love has no color. Awesome. I can agree with that. What I do not agree with, is Black men who become successful and begin to exclusively date white women. It is apparent that some or most successful Black men tend to date white women as a symbol of status. It does not take too much analyzing to theorize that there is a self hate issue in the Black community if Black men feel that they are "worth" the white woman's time once he has conquered all odds, defeated stereotypes and became successful in America. This is a direct reflection of Black men placing people of other races on a pedestal, and sweeping his own under the rug. That my friend is self hate. I will not "go in" because I can literally go on, and on, and on about self hatred in the black community and I do not want to lose your attention by writing the longest blog of all time. Just ask yourself this question: Is a white woman a Black man's prize; while a Black woman, a woman of his own kind, is a consequence?
For the guy who cannot understand what self hate is, and uses the typical excuses or reasons to date women, this is for you!
"White women know how to treat a Black man and a Black woman doesn't."
I will keep my response to that short and sweet. "We raised you."
The Easy Above Surface Excuse: "Black Women are bitter, have attitudes, and are just simply hard work!"
Let's examine this scientifically if you will. Newton's Third Law of Motion states, "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction". How can I apply this to this issue you ask? I'll put it simply for you. A BLACK WOMAN DID NOT BECOME BITTER ON HER OWN. A BLACK WOMAN'S "BITTERNESS" TOWARDS MEN IS A REACTION TO THE TREATMENT THAT SHE HAS ALREADY RECEIVED FROM BLACK MALES (not men) THAT IS DEEPLY ROOTED FROM, AND HEAVILY REFLECT BY MISOGYNISTIC VALUES. However, you know the saying, not all men are dogs? Ironically, after being the Black male's bitch, hoe, and sexual object who's only relevance is to open her legs on his demand, keep our mouths shut, and open it only for your penis... we STILL love you. We are not all bitter. Do you know how many Black women would just love to be loved by a Black man? That is now fantasy. Women are fed fairy tales and love stories as a child only to grow up and experience the exact opposite. We all learned in psychology 101 that first impression bias does exist. We are still Cinderella's and Sleeping Beauties waiting for our happily ever after.
Black males, please, just do us a favor and take the responsibility for your fellow brethren. We know that misogynism is heavy in the Black community due to media and lack of strong Black male leaders and fathers. We understand that, however, do what is right. LOVE US BLACK WOMEN ANYWAY! WE ARE A REFLECTION OF YOU! For every bitter Black woman, there is a Black boy who helped her arrive to such bitterness. This does not mean you just completely disregard Black women. Take the challenge of reconstructing the Black woman's opinion towards Black men. Reverse her conditioning. Please, embrace her, work on her, love her, before you devalue her and place another white woman on your pedestal.
